by Coco Jem Holiday
I used to have a stigma against singing in drag. I once met with Courtney Act who told me that if you can sing, then you should at least try. I really agree with this. We can't do something new unless we try. I know that sounds simple.
I've been singing since I was a kid. It has always been one of my favorite things to do. Now I get to share it with my community. We will see folks on January 6th
What is drag? What does it mean to be a drag queen?
I think there is a very clear anatomical difference between Bio-queens, Trans-queens and drag queens. That is fact. Neither form is greater or lesser, they are just different. As entertainers, if we are entertaining, that is truly what matter. No, this is not simplistic, it's reality.
Drag, to me, is gender illusion/bending and gender driven performances. Yes, I do agree that the term drag is for the manipulation of ones own gender not the gender to which you're portraying.
What RuPaul said:
Rupaul made a comment that bio-queens already have a show. Sorry folks, fish bio-queens could win a beauty pageant if they choose to go that route, so the comment in itself was valid. Also, Rupaul can put whoever she wants on that show because her name is in the title.
Everyone needs to remember this VERY VERY important fact: In any movement, the loudest voices should be from the ones who are directly affected. For non-binary movements, non-binary people should be speaking the loudest. Cis-people have a place in the LGBT but they shouldn't be taking a front seat and leading the charge.
Summary: All forms of drag is acceptable. Rupaul can do what she wants and when she wants, she has more then earned it, especially since she isn't hurting anybody and has been fighting the fight for a lot longer then the rest of us and doing it in the main stream. Lastly, I do not care how many of the unspoken "rules" of drag that you follow, unless you're entertaining I don't give a shit what you look like or what's on your face. A big costume does not guarantee a good performer. A pretty Facebook picture doesn't mean crap on stage. Serve it, and entertain.
I met this guy and we had an immediate connection right from the start. I don't know how invested in the relationship he is though. At times he seems like he really wants this to work out and other times he seems incredibly distant and cold. Do you think he feels bad for me? We met when I was a little intoxicated and we are not officially dating. We text all the time and we hang quite a bit, but I don't know if he feels the same way, or if he is just feeling sorry for me. I don't know what to do.
Mr. Friend of yours
Hey Mr. Friend of Mine
You don't know the answer. Many people will tell you that the key to a relationship is being able to talk with another person. Do it in person. Honestly, it's okay to have "what are we" conversations early on. It gives people the chance to tell you where they are at. It also gives people a chance to let you know if they're falling pretty hard, but want to take things slow. Some of my closest friends ended up together on a really weird occasion because of alcohol. If you are honestly falling for this person remember that falling in love is easy, that's why they call it falling. If you're not looking for something serious, just see where it goes. If you feel like you see this person being a permanent fixture in your life, then you're going to have to talk to them. You will have to get your feelings out there. You're going to have to make sure that the person you're falling for is right for you and compliments all the wonderful things about you. Relationships are about collaboration and goals. If you're not on the same page, it'd be better to find out now before the story ends abruptly and you thought it was getting to the best part.
Coco Jem Holiday
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Let's play a game:
Step 1: Comment on this post "Yes!" if you would like Donald J. Trump to win the presidency.
Step 2: After doing that, scroll up to the top of my page and hit the unfriend button before I go to your page and unfriend you.
It'll be fun. Whoever is quicker at un-friending wins!
NOTE: This game is mandatory for all Trump supporters on my friends list!
You open the door and you get in my car, well, not my car but my minivan
It's red, like a rose, but it's dark, like blood. So I call her Kennedy,
after the Kennedy assassination.
Kennedy Rose. . . that's her name.
You'll find I'm not a therapist, nor do I claim to be. You'll find that I have freshly washed seat covers and the overwhelming smell of Febreeze that circles throughout.
This isn't for your benefit, it's truly for mine.
You'll find mood lighting because some think that making out in the back of a stranger’s vehicle is
Trust me. I’ve done much more back there then you. . .
You'll find slightly used floor mats and a barely used trash bin, but you'll fail to see the point that this is my vehicle for I
am an Uber driver.
Remember that. Yes, THAT title, because I do not hold another.
Remember that, as you light up your cigarette in the front seat of vehicle that is not your own.
Remember that, as you begin to blast my radio far beyond its recommended limits
Remember that, as you PUKE out my child proof window, as we roll down the street
Remember that, as you finger your girlfriend in front of my rear view.
YES, I saw you.
YES, she faked it.
Remember that, as you slam my door as if it committed an obscene act
Remember that, as you are regaling me with tales of how you cheated on your wife at the local strip club.
Remember that as I dropped you off and you said that it was NOT the first time.
No. I am an Uber Driver. I cannot accept payments in weed or booze.
I accept money and tips
so that I may buy those things myself
I do not mind lending you a gossipy ear, as I will post your business on all social media, but remember as you’re sitting there
offering me a BLOW JOB in exchange for payment,
that your ride was only four dollars, and I charge MUCH more.
I know you feel as though you can share everything, that I am your audience, and you are my speaker. We built this bond,
You and I,
between the airport and Main Street, but remember that I
DO NOT know you. I don’t. I can’t.
You are my rider and, me, I am your driver.
YOUR Uber Driver. Yes, YOUR Uber Driver who plays podcasts in my headset while you speak about your problems. I am yours. . . for a few short minutes, and I guess that’s all you need, for you are my rider, and, me, I am your driver. Your Uber Driver
Please rate me five stars.
The CD'S Drag Queen writers include: Coco Jem Holiday and Donatella Mysecrets.