Theo and I would like to have kids someday.
I don't want my daughter to ever hear, "she's beautiful for a black girl".
I don't want my daughter to ever be judged based on the color of her skin. I want people to respond to her based on the content of her character.
I don't need my daughter to hear that the boy she wants to take to prom doesn't date black women.
I don't need my daughter to be eroticized because some person wants to see what it's like to sleep with a black chick.
I want my daughter to have role models and celebrity crushes that come from all differ types of backgrounds instead of the predominately white washed American media.
I want my daughter to know that she's beautiful because she's smart, kind and friendly, not because any man needs to make her feel that way.
I want my daughter to know that society treats black peoples the same as white people and discussions of race include empowerment and the discussion of oppression is only noted in history books.
I want my daughter to not fear that the person she likes says the n-word with his buddies in a joking fashion.
I want my daughter to end up with a man who treats her no less then a beautiful, kind and loving girl, instead of a beautiful, kind and loving black girl, because there should be no difference.
I want my daughter to not get followed around stores or lose out on job opportunities because she has a "black sounding" name.
My goal in life is to make sure that anyone I know learns to change the dialogue. It's not about, "why does he think that's racist" or "why is he calling me a racist" it's about trying to empower you to think for a second and realize that the words we use and the things we say, matter. No matter how small, it matters.
Because of my status in life, my daughter will be educated, go to good schools, and live in a warm home with lots of social and economical advantages. But because she's black, these things can be a hindrance to her overall success in life.
I don't want my daughter to have to fight harder to receive the same success as her male counterparts and fear the government policing her body.
I don't want my daughter to ever hear the words "don't" or "can't" based on the way she was born or even because she has two loving fathers.
My daughter will be beautiful and I hope the world she lives in will see that as well. . .
And if my daughter knows in life that she is really my son, there will be no question in how much I accept him and how he has the two most supportive and loving parents around and that the world he lives in places no stigma around who he is or what he wants in life.
This is why social activism matters to me. . .
That is why the discussion matters. . .
If anyone ever asks me again. . .
This is why