I had a Facebook post written about me six years ago by another drag entertainer. People who I weren't really friends with liked the post. Some people commented or said horrible things about me, and I was told about the post by many others. It was that moment that I KNEW I needed to get away from that kind of ridiculous drama/hatred. I knew that I couldn’t be part of community that celebrated a person or who allowed such treatment of one of their community members.
It took me a long time to figure out where I needed to be and how I was going to get there. I’m glad I didn’t leave when I wanted to because I would have never met Addam. When Addam proposed to me it changed my life. He made room for me in his life. As much as he feels I stepped into his world, I equally stepped into his. In the three years that Addam and I have been together, we have received an abundance of love and an abundance of hatred. When Addam and I first announced we were dating a friend of mine wrote us talking about how weird Addam was and how it would never work out.
That’s the kind of community I came from. Now I’m here. I’m finishing up my fourth day in Portland, and I’m glad to be away from Grand Junction. I’m glad to be thriving, and hopefully the toxicity never reaches that level again from any city in which I choose to live.