I got to witness "mature love" yesterday. Remember that there are many phases of love. We all kind of strive for true love or everlasting love. However, what happens right before true love is mature love.
You'd be foolish to think that a relationship won't have problems. It's how we work on those problems that defines what kind of relationship we will have. It's okay to get angry. It's okay to get pissed. It's okay to even get annoyed. However, it is NEVER okay to lash out. Some of us are more hot headed then others. When I see a couple who has the ability to navigate through conflict with their own took kit, it warms my heart.
Honesty is your best resource when used correctly. Most couples try to "right fight" meaning that they want to win, instead of resolve the issue. When you're being honest, it's the best way to portray how you feel. Never ascribe emotions to other people. Own how you feel even if it's irrational. If your partner cares for you they will stand by you in moments where you are most irrational. Saying things like, "I know it's stupid, but that really hurt my feelings" is a clear way showing your feelings without accusation. When you find yourself getting defensive, take a step back and evaluate if you're right fighting. If you're happy with the person you're with, both voices matter to the shared goals of the relationship. Never try to control of manipulate your partner. You can't exist next to another person if they feel like they do not have an equal voice. Love is mutual, not just in feeling but in action, and when you master that, it becomes everlasting
Just some Coco for thought