This is VERY true for gay culture. This is especially true for drag queen culture. There isn’t even a time when we hear male pronouns if you have to many queens together. The worlds are flamboyant and jovial. It’s a celebration of the things society tries to tell us are lesser. . .like women. We all know we are powerful, kind and strong, but in gay circles, they are idolized.
I had an incident a few months ago where I was code switching at a work function. Since I perform in drag, people tend to know only a certain side of me. Coco and Jon are practically the same but different in presentation. I don’t mind being the center of attention, however, when you happen to catch a friend outside your circle it can be a little traumatizing for your brain. My co-worker even asked me if I had dated that person because of how friendly we acted. We hadn’t, but it’s just a different kind of attitude all around.
Trust and believe.